Well, in my opinion, friends should not make you feel like you're not important. If it's bothering you, I would approach her about it and just say something like, "Hey, got a minute? I just wanted to talk to you about something that's bothering me, and I'm not trying to offend you or anything, I just want to tell you how I feel about this."
From there, the ball's in her court. If she chooses to change the way she's behaving when this stuff happens, then great! That is a good step for your friendship. However, if she chooses not to change anything about it or doesn't seem to care if it's causing distress for you, then I say it's all the better that you approached her on the matter. Really, you should not have to deal with feeling like this all the time. Even if it's a collaboration or a trade, fair is fair, and everyone should be treated with respect.
Sometimes you have to deal with unpleasant stuff like this, and I'm sorry it's giving you some anxiety about what to do. Just know that by trying to fix the problem now, you're saving yourself more potential distress, even if the next little while is unpleasant. You can do it :)
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Date: 2012-05-03 02:52 am (UTC)From there, the ball's in her court. If she chooses to change the way she's behaving when this stuff happens, then great! That is a good step for your friendship. However, if she chooses not to change anything about it or doesn't seem to care if it's causing distress for you, then I say it's all the better that you approached her on the matter. Really, you should not have to deal with feeling like this all the time. Even if it's a collaboration or a trade, fair is fair, and everyone should be treated with respect.
Sometimes you have to deal with unpleasant stuff like this, and I'm sorry it's giving you some anxiety about what to do. Just know that by trying to fix the problem now, you're saving yourself more potential distress, even if the next little while is unpleasant. You can do it :)