How to [nicely] back out of a commission?
Mar. 1st, 2016 10:21 amBack in January I was interested in getting sticker designs made to put into my fursuit packages. 2 people brought this up on me: one I was interested in and another kind of forced their way in. I'll label them as persons 1 and 2.
Person one delivered within a week two gorgeous designs. No problem.
Person two is where my question comes in:
On that same day [January 30th] I give them a rough sketch and we negotiate a price. They say they'll send me their PayPal soon. February 5th they give me an update saying there'll be a slight delay. At this point I inform them that it's okay and that they don't have to do it anymore, as personal issues came up and I lost interest. They completely ignore that and two days later give me a sketch. I play along with it and ask for a small change.
Last night [February 29th] they send me the sketch but now digitally done. It's been a long time and I forgot about the commission. Since the last update I also made the financial decision to severely limit how many commissions I buy this year, including this one.
I'm not sure how to word myself to ask to back out since they already gave me a sketch after I said I wouldn't like to continue the commission. From what I see on Twitter they get frustrated about this kind of stuff and I don't want it hung over my head, I already feel bad enough. :(
So how do I politely ask to cancel the commission in a situation like this?
Person one delivered within a week two gorgeous designs. No problem.
Person two is where my question comes in:
On that same day [January 30th] I give them a rough sketch and we negotiate a price. They say they'll send me their PayPal soon. February 5th they give me an update saying there'll be a slight delay. At this point I inform them that it's okay and that they don't have to do it anymore, as personal issues came up and I lost interest. They completely ignore that and two days later give me a sketch. I play along with it and ask for a small change.
Last night [February 29th] they send me the sketch but now digitally done. It's been a long time and I forgot about the commission. Since the last update I also made the financial decision to severely limit how many commissions I buy this year, including this one.
I'm not sure how to word myself to ask to back out since they already gave me a sketch after I said I wouldn't like to continue the commission. From what I see on Twitter they get frustrated about this kind of stuff and I don't want it hung over my head, I already feel bad enough. :(
So how do I politely ask to cancel the commission in a situation like this?
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Date: 2016-03-02 01:35 am (UTC)Unfortunately, you more or less sealed the deal by accepting the sketch. Now that the work is done, it would reflect poorly on you to not pay. You should have stood your ground about canceling.
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Date: 2016-03-02 01:37 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2016-03-02 01:58 am (UTC)Guess I'll ask for their PayPal, pay them and (hope) they finish it since there's been a lot of excuses involved.
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Date: 2016-03-02 03:36 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2016-03-02 01:43 am (UTC)I can't think of any way to say it besides just being straightforward and offering to pay for what was already completed.
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Date: 2016-03-02 02:01 am (UTC)I feel you owe them a clear statement of cancellation and a payment for work done thus far. Or follow through completely, let them provide what you agreed to and pay they full price.
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Date: 2016-03-02 02:06 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2016-03-02 05:28 am (UTC)Ask them if you can pay for the sketch instead of getting an entire image, and make it clear that's as far as you want to take it.
Also IO see that you mentioned you agreed to pay for the complete work - so I think this situation has played out. Definitely don't play along and agree or ask for edits if you don't want the image.
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Date: 2016-03-02 05:31 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2016-03-02 04:49 pm (UTC)*Edit To add, I know that sticker designs aren't a "heavy" commission request, but waiting less than 1 month is not a "long time". I'm wondering if the wait time added to you wanting to cancel this commission? Every artist is different, but if I had a client expect the art in less than 1 month without upfront discussing a deadline, I'd be a little frustrated, too. At least this is a learning experience :)
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Date: 2016-03-02 07:05 pm (UTC)no subject
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Date: 2016-03-02 05:40 pm (UTC)At this point I want to chip in a bit for what they already did, but I felt incredibly pressured by the comments that I HAVE to go forward with it or else, even if the artist agrees not to.
It just wouldn't feel right to essentially say, "You did all this extra work for free, you're out of luck." I know I wouldn't be amused if that happened to me.
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Date: 2016-03-02 05:55 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2016-03-02 06:03 pm (UTC)Excuse me, but you were the one who a) didn't have the guts to cancel the commission outright and "played along" asking them to do more work on a piece you didn't want, and b) came here to ask for advice.
You've been in the comm for a long time, what exactly made you think that you were going to be patted gently and told it was fine, you didn't have to pay for work already done?
In future, I would advise that you not string artists along, and instead state outright that you don't want to work with them. On no planet is asking for a change to a sketch any kind of signal that you want to cancel; just state it outright.
"I'm sorry, but I'm not interested in commissioning you at this time" is a perfectly acceptable thing to say to someone.
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Date: 2016-03-02 06:22 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2016-03-02 06:27 pm (UTC)So thank you. I'll go ahead and make them finish it.
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Date: 2016-03-02 06:40 pm (UTC)Though like you said, since they made the sketch, just tipping would be cool and I'm sure the artist would appreciate it a ton.
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Date: 2016-03-02 07:03 pm (UTC)I'd like to tip them ~80%. I feel horrible now and kind of want to avoid commissioning for a while after all of this.
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Date: 2016-03-02 07:14 pm (UTC)If you wanted, you could always copy paste what you told the artist when you tried to cancel. But based on what you said here, it doesn't sound like you actually told them you wanted to cancel and just hinted it.
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Date: 2016-03-02 07:05 pm (UTC)Some people on this site are harsher than others, and not all answers are going to be favorable, so you need to have tougher skin.
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Date: 2016-03-02 07:10 pm (UTC)I have tough skin but being told I "rip people off" is ridiculous from someone who has never worked with me and is basing me off this one post.
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Date: 2016-03-02 07:16 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2016-03-02 07:22 pm (UTC)Okay, let's back up. Feel free to clarify if I misread anything.
"They agreed to cancel it" reads like you brought up cancellation and they agreed, yes?
If so this simply falls under a client canceling mid commission. When you cancel you owe the artist for work done. If the artist already said "it's okay you don't have to pay me" then you're absolved of debt.
If you want to send money anyway, that's a nice gesture.
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Date: 2016-03-02 07:25 pm (UTC)However, they said I don't have to pay them because it was taking so long.
I can't do that. That wouldn't be nice. I've asked them for their PP so I can send them a tip for the time they already put into the work.
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Date: 2016-03-02 07:33 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2016-03-02 08:03 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2016-03-02 08:06 pm (UTC)You can, however, turn off notifications for yourself for this post in the settings, and that's what I recommend. That way you won't be notified when people comment.
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Date: 2016-03-02 08:10 pm (UTC)After I pay the artist I need a solid vacation from the internet. @___@
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Date: 2016-03-02 08:11 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2016-03-02 08:17 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2016-03-02 08:20 pm (UTC)The docket on your friend's page that shows all comments can't be selectively disabled, unfortunately. For that you will have to either turn it off entirely or just clear it without reading comments.
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Date: 2016-03-02 08:01 pm (UTC)To answer your question: No, I don't do commissions, but I have a good number of artist friends that are in the commission business so I'm knowledgeable of what to and not to do as artist and customer.
Good luck out there.
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Date: 2016-03-02 07:33 pm (UTC)Please don't try the guilt-tripping on me, it won't work. I am not being mean to you, I am being honest. No one said you had to "make them finish it". At all.
Everyone said you have to pay for the work they put in, which is on you, because you didn't tell them you weren't interested in commissioning them. You screwed up, so it's on you to make it right. That's part and parcel of doing business with anyone.
Literally all you need to do is say,"I'm sorry to have to cancel, but please let me pay you for the sketch. What are your sketch prices?" and then pay that amount. If you didn't want to be out the money, that's unfortunate, however it's your own fault for not being clear and upfront.
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Date: 2016-03-02 09:51 pm (UTC)In terms of why you accepted their work, I can understand. It's hard to be polite yet firm and not wanting to hurt feelings or disappoint someone can be a hard line to dance. In this situation, it seems like you accepted their work because of just that. It's hard, but sometimes you just have to politely tell people no; in the long run it can cause less trouble. That doesn't make it easy though, I can tell you from experience, but hopefully this is a situation you can learn from in that regard!
As far as the current state of things; from what I'm gathering, it seems the artist has agreed to cancel the commission and stated they did not want compensation? If that is the case, I'm going to disagree with many comments here and say I don't recommend trying to force a tip on them. Typically when someone walks away and doesn't want to be paid, they are trying to wash their hands of a transaction or simply just don't want to deal with it anymore. I would say it would be okay to send one final contact where you thank them for their efforts and offer a tip for the services rendered so far, but if they still decline then don't press it further.
As far as the community goes, while I think that some folks have been a little harsh, I don't think you should be trying to say they pressured you into any decision! You asked for advice and it was given, but it did not obligate you to do anything beyond what you already decided and it's not fair to pass any decisions made on your part off on the community. Overall, the community has good intentions and they're just trying to help out on a situation; we're not here to paint you as a bad guy or anything like that and I hope you don't think I'll of us collectively for it!
Hopefully you and the artist can get this sorted out and move on!
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Date: 2016-03-02 09:57 pm (UTC)I also didn't know that some artists don't want compensation for their work; if they put their foot down on that I'll go with their wishes.
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Date: 2016-03-02 09:59 pm (UTC)So it's usually best to just offer once, and if it's no, leave it be even if you feel a bit bad about it.
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Date: 2016-03-02 10:01 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2016-03-02 10:04 pm (UTC)(And I get you! I'm the same, and always feel bad about quirks due to it, as I forget others have them too)
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Date: 2016-03-02 10:04 pm (UTC)Rough transactions can cause anxiety for sure so someone declining compensation may be trying to avoid the stressful situation and such!
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Date: 2016-03-02 10:03 pm (UTC)Good luck though!
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Date: 2016-03-03 12:23 am (UTC)Best of luck! You'll be okay.
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Date: 2016-03-03 06:38 am (UTC)If the artist said that they didn't need compensation, then you're fine. I've been on that end too -- as artists, we are the ones who choose to dictate our income, and in some situations we can be okay with technically "losing" money if it's in everyone's best interest. I've done free work for commissioners before after I've taken much longer than expected with their commission and such.
So I think with the situation as it stands now, you're fine. Try not to stress about it. It happens.
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Date: 2016-03-03 06:40 am (UTC)no subject
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