Roux/Tomhoshino

[mottenfest.livejournal.com]

Who: Roux/Tomhoshino

Website: http://www.furaffinity.net/user/tomhoshino

Where: AOL Instant Messenger/Furaffinity

What: Conbadge Trade

When: 2007

Proof: Screenshots will be Provided below, but the original AIM conversation has been lost over the years

Details: I asked Roux for a trade while chatting with her on AIM. She agreed to a badge trade and I asked her to draw my character Sysko (previously known as Rensis). I was really excited, so I did my half and posted it right away (seen here with timestamp). She said she liked it and then I began the wait. I sent a quick email in 2008 (seen here) and in 2009 (seen here). Neither were answered. Recently I saw she was on FA and taking commissions so I asked her if she could do my badge in between the sketches. She responded as if she had never agreed to the trade (seen here). Unfortunately I don't have the aim conversations anymore as they happened over 5 years ago, so all I have is the screencaps and my word.
I didn't think there was anywhere else to go with this but here, since it looks like a lost cause. :/

Update 02/07/13
After making this post, Roux responded to my comment linking her half (here). This would have resolved the whole thing, if not for this description (here), which a day or two later became this description (here). The entire rant is misguided, reading more like her playing the victim than it does justice to her aim of being diplomatic. She never expressed these feelings to me, she just stopped talking to me altogether. I feel like she had plenty o opportunity o work this out with me, instead of ignoring my attempts at contact. I am a lot of things, but unsympathetic is not one of them. If she had maturely explained the way she felt in private, I would have certainl apologized ecause I never meant to make her feel that way Despite the rant, I wanted to leave a 'thank you' but I found I was blocked (here).
I'm disappointed that instead of emailing me her half and explaining how she felt, the ordeal ended like this.

Comments

[roocodendron.livejournal.com]

Is this resolved? I saw her post up your character just now and I hope it all went well!

[roocodendron.livejournal.com]

Wow. I saw the first description to that and thought it was pretty snarky, but dang :/ Her art is cute by no thanks.

[trentxandrew.livejournal.com]

I just peeked in to see what roocodendron was talking about and woah, tomhoshino seems really snarky with that drawing and description. I'm sorry it ended so awkwardly. :x

[phineus.livejournal.com]

No kidding, that definitely earns a beware. :s

[neolucky.livejournal.com]

Her response to you on the uploaded picture is gross, it's petty and it's absolutely made me lose respect for her. There was no need for her to go and add such vitriol to the image. (Heck she didn't even need to upload the image, just send it to you directly)

I will make damn sure not to support her, or her work in the future.

Tom, if you're reading this - All my respect is gone for you. That was not cool. Not at all.

[starcharmer.livejournal.com]

Agreed with you. I'm super disappointed. :(

[muttmetal.livejournal.com]

+1. Unwatched Roux and bummed about this ordeal too. 8/

[angel-harmony hamill (from livejournal.com)]

While it is nice to see that the issue has been resolved, the artists commentary is completely uncalled for and as previously mentioned, could have been handled in a completely different manner. And seeing what she wrote in the description, it makes me wonder how she may handle any issues that could arise when it came to a commission.

Also... the response of one of the users in the comments section is exceedingly disturbing.

[mottenfest.livejournal.com]

I feel lucky to have missed the aforementioned comment. .__.

[wingsofjudas.livejournal.com]

I saw last night that Tomhoshino had revised the description but this morning the submission is deleted. She had said that when originally approached by Mottenfest she believed it was for *friendship* but it became obvious that he was only interested in art so she removed herself and stopped offering trades entirely, which to me, puts this "beware" post in a different light.

The fact that she even did the trade after having her name trashed here and being pulled out of her comfort zone, I think says a lot.

[mottenfest.livejournal.com]

I did write in my post that I did not mean to come across as only interested in getting art from her. I can come off a bit strong when I get excited, and I was very excited to do a trade with an artist I grew up admiring. I also mentioned in the original post that I never received any indication she felt used. She just thanked me for the badge, and then.... no contact.
I understand I might have made her uncomfortable, but instead of letting me work it out with her, it took an A_B post to get a response from her. A response that I couldn't even answer because I was blocked. :/

[shukivengeance.livejournal.com]

It always baffles me how somebody can stiff another person on something owed for a very long time and then play the victim. What an awful attitude.

[claviarm.livejournal.com]

I love that line "but obviously I agreed to the art trade (which by the way I could have easily lied about since you had no proof)". She could have lied and we should be grateful and impressed that she didn't, guys! Because I guess lying is the standard we should expect from her...?

I'll have to start reminding people I meet that I could have punched them in the face, so they should be pleased with me for not having done so.

(I also love the yyyy.mm.dd date format. And now that I've seen someone else use it I know I'm not alone in the world any more! :P)