Update: skullgrrl

[grygon.livejournal.com]

I had hoped that this next weekend I would post a "resolved" post but when I got home from my aunt's funeral tonight I found this message in my inbox:
http://www.flickr.com/photos/29033586@N08/6110810725/sizes/o/in/photostream/

She refers to a bad-dealings thread on taxidermy.net where the only new message I had posted in reply since posting here and getting to see this dispute nearly resolved was a link to her artists-beware post, pointing out how she had reacted to it. That was going to be my last post concerning her, plus the resolution post when I did get my plush. It seems the post was removed, and I have a few PMs on those forums urging me to post my warning again as my own warning, and not Bob's (I had only been replying to his post about his bad dealings with her to share my own).

Then I found this beauty:
(eta: gender slurs and threats of physical violence in link)
http://www.flickr.com/photos/29033586@N08/6116827145/sizes/o/in/photostream/
the top thread is from her fanpage on facebook and the very bottom of that image is from taxidermy.net. At the top she mentions giving me a day or so, and in her facebook PM the only thing she asks for is me removing my posts.

The images explain themselves, I think, but as I suspect from my first post on her:
http://artists-beware.livejournal.com/502139.html
her local fans are up in arms.

I am unsure what to do at this point. Thoughts?


ETA: Rereading that thread, I do want to clarify the "stay at home artist with no kids" comment that gets mentioned about the other forum as it seems to be lost on some critics: I meant that she was just a stay at home artist, and could not use kids as a valid reason for not working as that would be an understandable reason to me.

ETA2: Re: "wasn't allowed in skullgrrl's group" message below (frozen by mods, due to insults), I was a member and left of my own freewill for personal reasons and then got harassed for it:
http://www.flickr.com/photos/29033586@N08/6118557424/sizes/o/in/photostream/

ETA3: so after being temp-banned here for her behavior, she posts this:
http://furhideandbone.livejournal.com/1270163.html
She makes some untrue statements in the comments as well as the main post, though that should be obvious to everyone by now. If there is a comment or statement she made that you want my side to just let me know. She does mention that I apologized to her here in the comments for some reason but I did not do that, at all, as can be seen.

ETA4: she deleted that post on furhideandbone. It got to around 40 comments (that I have saved via email if they're needed for whatever reason), mostly of people telling her to cool off. She deleted it and reposted this:
http://furhideandbone.livejournal.com/1270627.html
So here is a screen cap of the "witch hunt" she deleted from there:
http://www.flickr.com/photos/29033586@N08/6119512262/sizes/o/in/photostream/

ETA5: I'm in the coffee shop now with nyaro and have picked up the plushie. Plushie-wise, this issue is resolved now. I'm in love all over again, it's like when I first got Babette who is my favorite ever.

Comments

[frazzled-niya.livejournal.com]

I understand that you are skullgrrl's friend but seriously why would you let them act that way when you know too well that it's out there in the open? Everyone that has acted in such a way that has been my friend has had a good slap around the head and stern talking too.

The problem is now that skullgrrl has acted in such a way she's ruined her own business and chased away potential customers all on her own. Now if she was able to keep a cool head and come here and tell her side of the story and provide screencaps etc people WOULD listen.

At the end of the day she should have really kept her mouth shut and finished the transaction and be done with it.

[frequentlynyaro.livejournal.com]

First of all, I am not her keeper and I don't really appreciate being labeled as such. Secondly, I HAVE spoken with her about it. I've told her that I'm unhappy with her behavior, etc and we've been conversing about it since last night. If I haven't posted how I spoke to her or what I said to her or how she's reacted, it's because this is between myself and Skullgrrl and once she decides to do so, she can speak for herself on the matter.

I am sorry if you are unhappy that I'm not flaming her in public. Be satisfied that I am not happy with her behavior and I have told her so. Her actions from here on in are not my responsibility or under my control. And if she does something like this again, you can be sure I'll rethink my friendship with her.

[frequentlynyaro.livejournal.com]

Not that you really labeled me her keeper, sorry. Knee-jerk reaction. ^^'

[frazzled-niya.livejournal.com]

I didn't say anything about you being her keeper, you are the one labeling yourself in that way, no where have I seen anyone say that you are.

Er why would I be unhappy about you not doing that? By the sounds you are too gooder friend to her than she deserves by her actions and I would say she's lucky to have you.

[frequentlynyaro.livejournal.com]

Yeah, I added a post apologizing for that. Sorry again. ^^'

And thanks. I got a bit defensive. I definitely did not mean to come across sounding so pissy. And I don't actually think you'd be happy if I was flaming her. Most people wouldn't. lol

[frazzled-niya.livejournal.com]

Don't worry :)

:( Makes me sad that people don't see how it can hurt others including themselves when they flame, even if the post comments about people or customers on their mostly private blogs etc...Cos there are ways for others to see and at the end of teh day you have to learn to wear the consequences for your actions. Like me almost loosing my job 8D when I was going through this horrid rough patch, things were talked about and job saved D8....

[frequentlynyaro.livejournal.com]

Yeah. >.>

I try to avoid stuff like that as much as possible. If I have to vent, I vent to my mom or a close friend, usually in person. lol

[frazzled-niya.livejournal.com]

Usually best to avoid until you can deal with it in a calm frame of mind. I vent to my chatroom friends or here in LJ and lock it so only I can see.

[frequentlynyaro.livejournal.com]

Definitely. :O

If I'm really mad and can't wait to respond, I write a letter to that person in notepad or word and then delete it without sending it to anyone. :) That usually lets me calm down enough to think rationally.

[frazzled-niya.livejournal.com]

good idea 8D, should remember that for next time.